Release and Surrender

River in Colorado that I visited with Andrew and my sisters.


I would love to live

Like a river flows,

Carried by the surprise

Of its own unfolding.

~ John O’Donohue~

In our Healing Circles, of the five elements, the element that represents Autumn is water.  What are the qualities of water?  Water surrenders to its surroundings.  It does not resist. Sometimes in turmoil and sometimes filled with the depths of calm, stillness, and silence – peace.  Water drops, it lets go, it flows.

What can we learn from water?  What does it mean to surrender instead of resist? I don’t mean to violence, but to everyday interactions when we feel resistance in ourselves or others?  What happens if we just surrender, listen deeply, and acknowledge the other person?  What happens for the other person when we do this?  What happens if we let go of having the answer or having to be right or being able to change anything or fix anything or make anything better? What if we surrender to the way it is, just as water surrenders to its surroundings?

   I invite you to go find some water to sit near and reflect on these questions. Or, experiment with this as you go through your day.  What is your experience? If you have the aromatherapy blend we call release and surrender.  Diffuse some into the room or put some on a tissue and take deep breaths of the aroma.  Or, if you have the diluted blend, use some as a massage oil on your chest, inside of wrists, arms and shoulders. Place a few drops on your fingertips and massage behind your ears and along side the neck as well as the region of the heart.  How does it make you feel?  Does it help you become more aware of your ability to release resistance and surrender to the world around you?

For me, I find a deep sense of stillness and peace inside of me. I wonder suddenly why I have been resisting and how gentle and tender it feels to just surrender and let go of my resistance.  I find that people I am with open up and become more calm and lose their resistance.  I wonder why I don’t practice this more often?

I invite you to share how it makes you feel and your stories with this experience.